I've been told by a number of my Rabbanim that Jerusalem would be a great place to date people who might actually be on target for me, and that there would be a large pool of people for me to date. Well, my first month here has not been evidence of that. Despite calling 5 or 6 different shadchanim, I've only gone on one date in the month I've been here.

The shadchanim I've called and gotten through to either claim not to be shadchanim, or they sound really hard pressed to suggest someone who might match me -- like they've got one person who might possibly match, but they feel it's unlikely. The "real" shadchanim whose numbers I have don't pick up the phone. Or they're otherwise unavailable when I call.

The upshot is that I've been to night seder far too often. I don't want to come back to the US empty handed, having only gone on two or three dates while I'm here. That would just be too disappointing.

What do I have to do to get a date around here?

(June 26: I originally composed this as an email to Rabbi Azose, but then I decided to use it as a tefilla. It seems to have helped. No prayer works better than the one you really feel, that expresses your true frustrations.)